I Wasn’t Attacked, But if I Was, Would It Have Been My Fault?

I don’t know if Brett Kavanaugh attacked Christine Blasey Ford in the summer of 1982 – but I know this: The culture in which this allegedly occurred was real then, it was real for me in the ‘90s, and it is real now. I always knew that it was my responsibility to protect myself from…

Choose Your Own Constellations – And Write Your Own Life

I’ve been fascinated with the stars since I was still playing with Barbie dolls.  As a little girl, I used to look up at the sky at night and spot the first star, then instantly close my eyes, make a wish and desperately try not to look back up at the sky so as not…

“If You Care So Much, Why Don’t YOU Take the Immigrants In?”

I’ve been watching and listening carefully the past few weeks as debate over immigration in America has heated up and caught afire.  I’ve heard the cries of the children separated at the border, and I’ve watched commentator after commentator spout out their rhetoric on TV.  I’ve seen people close to me – from avid Trump…

How I’m Diving Into Summer (Kid-Induced Chaos Included)

There are 7 ½ school days left until summer.  Normally, at this time of year, I’m a bit of a mess.  I’m a stay-at-home mom to two young sons, and when those two young sons are in school, I get a chance to breathe and “get things done.”  As the school days dwindle, my opportunity…

I’ll Be Happy if YOU’RE Happy (No Pressure!)

Do you like to make people happy? I do!  I love to do nice things for people!  It makes me feel valuable and worthy.  I get pumped up about random acts of kindness and things like “paying it forward.”  For the most part, it’s pretty all around awesome when I’m able to help out a…

I Have Enough!  I Can Be Happy!

When will you have enough to be happy? What is the dollar amount in your wallet that will make you feel fulfilled?  What status do you have to achieve in order to feel successful?  Who do you need in your life to feel loved?  What do you need to do, achieve or acquire to be…

I Can’t Be Bitter, Because I Chose This Life

I am a good girl.  I have always prided myself in following the rules, doing what others expect of me, and keeping my word.  Maybe that’s why it’s been so hard to swallow when life hasn’t turned out the way I thought it would.  How could my ex-boyfriend have deceived me like he did, when…

What My Child Sees in Me

Sometimes the greatest blessings can come from the simplest and even messiest moments.  That was certainly true for me this morning. I was looking into my son’s eyes before the sun rose, as he was lying curled up in the fetal position next to me, feverish and miserable with the stomach flu, when he did…

We are YOU to Talk?  Who are THEY to Act?

“Who does she think she is, anyway?” you hear a friend saying.  “She’s not so special.  Her marriage is failing/her career is in shambles/her relationship with her children is terrible.  What makes her qualified to give advice about motherhood/marriage/friendship/life?” Does that sound familiar?  Maybe it’s something you’ve heard someone else say, or something you’ve said…

Happily Ever After is Hogwash

“And they lived happily ever after.”  “He’s my soul mate.”  “She’s my dream come true.”  “I want the fairy tale.”  Do you know how many times I’ve heard these kinds of phrases and wistfully pined away for a love like that – a love that would make my head spin and my heart soar, a…

What’s the Point of Perfection?

Can you find the flaw in the Navajo rug pictured above?  Trust me, it’s there.  It’s what makes the rug so beautiful. Navajo rug weaving is recognized worldwide for its exquisite beauty, intricacy and attention to detail.  Navajo rugs are perhaps the most sought after textile product of the American Southwest.  Yet, the Navajo do…

Stop Praising Me for Being Skinny

I’ve gotten more compliments over weight loss than anything else I’ve ever done in my life. Never mind the times in my life that I’ve done things of substantive value.  Forget about graduating from college, getting promoted to a director at my job or donating my time to worthy causes.  Losing weight has garnered the…