We are YOU to Talk?  Who are THEY to Act?

“Who does she think she is, anyway?” you hear a friend saying.  “She’s not so special.  Her marriage is failing/her career is in shambles/her relationship with her children is terrible.  What makes her qualified to give advice about motherhood/marriage/friendship/life?” Does that sound familiar?  Maybe it’s something you’ve heard someone else say, or something you’ve said…

Happily Ever After is Hogwash

“And they lived happily ever after.”  “He’s my soul mate.”  “She’s my dream come true.”  “I want the fairy tale.”  Do you know how many times I’ve heard these kinds of phrases and wistfully pined away for a love like that – a love that would make my head spin and my heart soar, a…

What’s the Point of Perfection?

Can you find the flaw in the Navajo rug pictured above?  Trust me, it’s there.  It’s what makes the rug so beautiful. Navajo rug weaving is recognized worldwide for its exquisite beauty, intricacy and attention to detail.  Navajo rugs are perhaps the most sought after textile product of the American Southwest.  Yet, the Navajo do…

Stop Praising Me for Being Skinny

I’ve gotten more compliments over weight loss than anything else I’ve ever done in my life. Never mind the times in my life that I’ve done things of substantive value.  Forget about graduating from college, getting promoted to a director at my job or donating my time to worthy causes.  Losing weight has garnered the…

How a Broken, Desperate Alcoholic Can Change the World

When I was a little girl I wanted to change the world.  I wanted to make the world a better place.  I dreamed of getting a job for Make a Wish Foundation or something life-changing like that, helping sick children while also making a fair amount of money.  I thought that in order to do…

Get An Extra Hour Each Day

What would you do if you had an extra hour each day to spend however you wanted? Last week, our family was gathered around the kitchen table eating dinner whining about having to eat dinner when I read our question of the day from “101 Conversation Starters for Families,” a book we like to read…

You Never Listen to Me!

Have you ever found yourself giving advice to a loved one, only to end up disappointed and frustrated because they didn’t listen to you?  Maybe you’ve tried telling your best friend to quit that awful job already.  “Can’t you see that it’s making you miserable?  You’ll be so much better off once you resign!”  Or…

The Real Reason Many of Us Don’t Feel Accepted

If I’ve spent my life trying to be accepted, why have I never felt accepted?  As it turns out, it appears as if I’ve been making a giant mistake.  I’m willing to bet that most people seeking acceptance have made the very same mistake at one time or another. My fatal flaw is this:  I…

Want to Change the World?  Be a Monkey.

Do you ever wonder if you can make a difference in the world?  Truly, really make a difference?  I do.  I wonder this all the time.  I vividly remember myself as a 9-year-old girl in pigtails, playing with Barbie dolls, scribbling stories in tattered notebooks and dreaming of changing the world.  Very early on, I…

I’m Right and I Can Prove It!

I have a lengthy set of notes stored in my iPhone that I use specifically to keep track of facts that I can use in fictitious arguments with as-yet-to-be-determined individuals that might disagree with me on a given subject.  I’m not proud of it.  It’s pretty embarrassing, to be honest.  What kind of pathetic and…

Maybe the Key To Success is Closing Our Mouths

Have you ever wondered why Oprah is so rich and successful?  Oprah Winfrey is known around the world as a thought leader and brilliant entrepreneur who overcome incredible personal challenges to not only rise to the top of her career field, but to break through barriers and create new definitions of success.  The catalyst for…

Thank You Failure, Heartbreak and Pain

When we think of gratitude we often gravitate toward giving thanks to the people and things that have made our lives better – usually the people that have shown us kindness, or the things that have helped paved the way to our success.  It’s often the shiny, happy things that we express gratitude for.  But…