Slave to my Stuff

I’ve been moved to tears seeing the devastation Hurricanes Harvey and Irma have caused in this country these last couple weeks, as I know so many of us have been.  The sheer numbers of people affected, homes lost, possessions destroyed and hearts shattered are staggering.  It’s impossible to look at the destruction without feeling compassion…

Is Control a Good Thing?

“Do you like where you keep your checkbook?” I asked my husband as I idly stirred some pasta on the stove.  “I’m going to organize the office tomorrow.” “Yeah, I like where I keep it,” he replied good naturedly.  “It works.” “Okay, cool,” I said, nodding.  “I’ll find a better place for it, then.” HOLD…

What Loving My Kids Has Done for Me

I always assumed that having kids would teach me how to love.  I just never imagined that parenthood would teach me how to love not just the tiny humans I created, but to also love myself. It’s back-to-school time, and that means many things to many different families.  For us, it means a whole new…

My Health is MY Responsibility

Are you sick and tired of the seemingly never-ending debate about healthcare in America?  I sure am!  For years, I’ve been following the discussions extolling the virtues and ridiculing the vices of our current healthcare system.   Our system is screwed up, that’s for sure.  And so is the state of our health.  Our children are…

Why You Have to Play the Whole Song

There are certain songs that speak to us.  The song choices are different for everyone, though some songs certainly have mass appeal.  Songs have the power to stir something up inside of us, whether it’s bittersweet nostalgia or a moment of exuberance and joy. Inside each great song, there is a moment.  Sometimes it’s a…

Work Hard So You Can Enjoy Life Someday!

How many of years of your life would you like to enjoy?  Two?  Twenty-five?  Or maybe more? Here’s a scary statistic for you.  An actuarial study of longevity found that people who work hard up until the age of retirement (65) tend to live about two years after retirement.  TWO.  As in, 2.  As in,…

Live, Love, Grow … and Be You (a Lesson from Kauai)

Kauai is an island where once nothing grew.  It was barren and isolated and raw, with only iron in its soil and nothing living on it at all.  Not a single thing breathed on that island.  It stands today as a tiny and vibrant island in the Pacific, sure-footed and majestic in its exuberant life. …

40 Reasons I’m Glad I’m 40

Turning 40 is different than I thought it would be. I used to think that turning 40 was a mark of a life being over, or if not over, certainly on a downward trajectory.  Thinking of 40-year-old celebrations from years past, I picture black everywhere with canes and wrinkle cream and lots of talk about…

If It Bleeds, It Leads (Why You Need to Listen to Your Pain)

If you begin with the brutal, you can find the beautiful.  That’s what journalism taught me. When I took a course in journalism at Michigan State University in 1997, I heard one phrase almost every week.  “If it bleeds, it leads.”  It’s a common phrase, one that most Americans have likely heard before, and it…

1 Summer Rule That Should Be a Lifetime Rule

“There are no rules in summer, right, Mommy?”  This question came from my 6-year-old, The Professor, as we munched on our Subway sandwiches after school. The question gave me pause.  Now, we are not necessarily a household overflowing with rules.  If anything, I may need to step up the regulations around this place – things…

Why I’m Ditching my Celebrity Crush List

Who is your celebrity crush?  Do you have a list of famous people you are dying to meet?  Or even more fun – do you and your partner have a list of celebrity “freebies” that you are allowed to date, like they had on the sit-com Friends? Lancelot and I chatted just last Friday about…