Live, Love, Grow … and Be You (a Lesson from Kauai)

Kauai is an island where once nothing grew.  It was barren and isolated and raw, with only iron in its soil and nothing living on it at all.  Not a single thing breathed on that island.  It stands today as a tiny and vibrant island in the Pacific, sure-footed and majestic in its exuberant life. …

40 Reasons I’m Glad I’m 40

Turning 40 is different than I thought it would be. I used to think that turning 40 was a mark of a life being over, or if not over, certainly on a downward trajectory.  Thinking of 40-year-old celebrations from years past, I picture black everywhere with canes and wrinkle cream and lots of talk about…

If It Bleeds, It Leads (Why You Need to Listen to Your Pain)

If you begin with the brutal, you can find the beautiful.  That’s what journalism taught me. When I took a course in journalism at Michigan State University in 1997, I heard one phrase almost every week.  “If it bleeds, it leads.”  It’s a common phrase, one that most Americans have likely heard before, and it…

1 Summer Rule That Should Be a Lifetime Rule

“There are no rules in summer, right, Mommy?”  This question came from my 6-year-old, The Professor, as we munched on our Subway sandwiches after school. The question gave me pause.  Now, we are not necessarily a household overflowing with rules.  If anything, I may need to step up the regulations around this place – things…

Why I’m Ditching my Celebrity Crush List

Who is your celebrity crush?  Do you have a list of famous people you are dying to meet?  Or even more fun – do you and your partner have a list of celebrity “freebies” that you are allowed to date, like they had on the sit-com Friends? Lancelot and I chatted just last Friday about…

Don’t Be a Crab (Lift Your Friends Up, Don’t Pull Them Down)

We often hear people to tell us to “think outside the box,” but what if you find yourself in a box that other people are comfortable with?  What if they want to keep you there? If life is anything at all, it’s a giant adventure.  Each of us is learning and growing every day. Sometimes…

Is Your Self-Care Routine Killing You?

Let’s face it – life is hard.  We have bills to pay and mouths to feed, places to go and people to see.  Most of us feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to do all the things that are expected of us.  Many of us feel enormous pressure to succeed, to nurture…

Who Cares if the World is Good or Evil?

“Get your head out of the clouds!”  “You live in a dream world.”  “You need to get your feet back on the ground and start facing reality.”  “Life is hard, Carrie.  You need to learn to deal with that.” These comments, and phrases like these, have haunted me for much of my life.  It seems…

My Someday List

Have you ever started a sentence with the word, “Someday…?” If so, what has come after that word? “Someday, I want to visit Japan.” “Someday, I’ll catch up on all my work and be able to relax.” “Someday, I will write that novel/climb that mountain/run that marathon/get that dream job.” “Someday, I’ll have enough money…

Where Quantum Physics and Harmony Collide

What if we could feel happier and more connected to the world simply by controlling our environment? The new discoveries of quantum physics seem to indicate that experiencing life through qualia (sensations, images, feelings and thoughts) unites our individual selves with the universe as a whole.  At least that’s my twist on one of the…

Why I’m Giving Away my Garage Sale Profits

I’m currently going through a lot of stuff we have piled in our basement to sell at our neighborhood garage sale, sorting and pricing objects.  $1 for hard-cover books, 50 cents for a paperback.  DVDs, one buck each.  Some of the pricing is easy, and some is mind-numbingly stressful. Let’s take my old martini shaker,…