The Teeter Totter of Life

My life is not balanced. It’s never been balanced. I don’t know what the perfect mix of activities should be in order to achieve balance. I often say I want to regain balance in my life, but that phrase is inaccurate, because you can’t re-gain something you’ve never gained. I certainly try, though, because a…

Who Are You?

If I were to ask you right this moment who you were, how would you answer? Linda Gray, actor of Sue Ellen Ewing fame and author of “The Road to Happiness is Always Under Construction,” recently asked attendees at the 2014 Ultimate Woman’s Expo in Dallas to answer the question, “Who are you?” with an…

Two Words that Instantly Invalidate

Seeing my firstborn son smile for the first time was one of moments in my life I will never forget.  It filled me with indescribable awe and heartbreaking love.  I was thrilled, and I wanted to share the joy I was feeling with a friend. “He smiled today!”  I reported, “For the first time!  He…

What Type of –Ist Are You?

You know the classic question – is the glass half full, or half empty?  Your answer determines your outlook on life.  See the glass as half full, and you’re an optimist.  See the glass as half empty, and you’re a pessimist.  Who wouldn’t want to be the optimist in this scenario?   The pessimist is seen…

Take Him as He Is

Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated our 9th anniversary.  Naturally, the occasion had me thinking about love. My husband (who I will henceforth refer to as “Lancelot,” due to his understated chivalry, unwavering integrity and giant heart) and I have made quite a life for ourselves in nine years.  However, it hasn’t all been sunshine…

Thank You! (I’m Not Sorry)

Hi, I’m Carrie, and I’m an apology-holic. It’s one of the most evident downsides of not feeling good enough.  I’m constantly apologizing, and not for things that I should apologize for.  I say, “I’m sorry,” more times in a day than I can count.  When my 5-year-old can’t sleep and crawls into my bed at…

The Science of “Good Enough”

Let’s talk science.  Neuroscience, in fact. Turns out that settling for a good enough decision instead of waiting to make a perfect decision makes you happier. Neuroscience is the scientific study of the nervous system.  Some neuroscientists study happiness.  Yes, there are scientists that study what makes us happy!  That’s a branch of science I…

Everyone Has a Story

I am an ordinary girl.  I grew up in a typical suburban house with two brothers, a mom and a dad, a dog and a few hamsters.  I went to college, got a job and got married.  Now I’m the one paying the mortgage on a typical suburban house with two kids and a dog of…

What If I Was Good Enough?

I have always wanted to be a good girl.  It started before I can remember, and it’s still going on today, as I edge ever closer to 40.  As a child I wanted to please my parents, my brothers and my friends.  At school I wanted to make my teachers happy, and I figured out…